Finally, get some support, I feel much comfortable. -hotmoon(Who cares!) @硅谷华人论坛:硅谷枫下论坛 The Rolia Forum of San Jose

枫下佳缘 / 快乐单身 / I do not experience such kind of thing. So I cann't be too judgemental. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- by hotmoon (Who cares!) at 2006.2.7 23:08 -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 {850} (#2771744@0)
But if on a blind date, the guy push the bill in frond of me, it is a slap on my face. According to my personality, i will not invite him to my place, it is a big no-no to do anything with him anymore. But people has different personality. I would like to think this lady just want to be polite.
I remember , once two local guys and me sitting at a table. One of the guy invited a local lady to join us. At beginnig, just small talking, then this guy ( he is stunning, extremly good-looking guy) asked this local lady ( she is a little bit orve-weight, ordinary girl), "What do you think of man?" Guess, what is the anwser of this lady. " I think all men are pigs" She anwsered. She is very rude, isn't she? But the guys still paid all the bills.
Even the ladies on blind date are not attractive to the guys, the guys still can be a gentlemen.

比较无耻，用鬼老的例子来哄男同胞为你们买单。以为和鬼老混过，你就了不起了，鄙视你这样的国女。。 -wuquanshan(呵呵); 2006-2-8 (#2771757@0)

女人约会无国界.男人中有AA男是国耻! -wcy0078(闻香识女人); 2006-2-8 (#2771767@0)

Just consult with two local guys. Ha, somebody is going to be mad at me again! Here is the social code in Canada: -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 {546} (#2771858@0)
1) On blind date, usually the guys pay the bill. But more and more two parties share the bills now. They should dicuss this issue on the phone.
2) If they did not dicuss it, after the meal, the guy suggest to Go Dutch, that means he is not very much attracted by the lady. Then the lady should catch the signal.
3) On the first date, do not invite the guy go to your previate place. That means you invite him to go further.
4) Usually on third or forth date, you can invite him to go to your own place. What is going on next, it is up to you.

In old fashion, men buy bills on the date, and women will make a decent meal to accommodate men as return. Nowaday, both parties are busy, and not all women know how to cook. -thronbill(刺玫瑰); 2006-2-8 (#2772090@0)
Therefore, AA is the simple way to solve women's problem, and adopted gradually. -thronbill(刺玫瑰); 2006-2-8 (#2772091@0)

Agree with 女人约会无国界, humanity is same for all human being. No matter Chinese or Non-Chinese. -thronbill(刺玫瑰); 2006-2-8 (#2772071@0)

是,虽然月亮只有一个,但我们吴刚总是好的多. -wcy0078(闻香识女人); 2006-2-8 (#2771764@0)

I am confused too. Maybe the ladies only think about their feeling, do not conside the men's feeling. Just listen to different voice, we can learn something in order to improve our behavior. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 {107} (#2771871@0)
And what is wrong with talking with local guys? I mean not Mr.WCY. That gentleman upstair. Are you racist?

点开后看全是英文就没往下看。中文里面参杂点英文就算了，通篇英文，没有必要吧！到这里来的都是中国人，聊聊天图个轻松，英文再怎么好也没有中文看的舒服。何必呢，你们说是不是？ -howcomescanada(归去来); 2006-2-8 (#2771923@0)

Her is English is easy to read, not very very formal, quite comfortable. -mailtome(mailtome); 2006-2-8 (#2772121@0)

她的英语倒是能看懂，你的英语不太好懂 -hongdu(红都); 2006-2-8 (#2772135@0)

Finally, get some support, I feel much comfortable. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 {854} (#2772278@0)
I would like to clarify a. I cann't type chinese. b. there is no chinese around me.
But I am realy confused by the fact why the chinese guy are so upset if chinese ladies mention a little bit anything about western people. I would like to ask them: why do you chose to immigrate to Canada?----a country is dominated by western people. You have right to choose anything that is good for you. Why the chinese ladies have not right to choose anything they want. On the contray, I always told local guys, yellow to yellow, white to white. we are totally different monkeys.
Just try to help this lady, share some experience in order not to make mistake again. Seems i made bigger mistake, mention local guys is showing off, typy english is not right either. I remember we are canadian, aren't we. why I cann't write in the first official lanuage?

我们土人鹰文都不好，总看拼音文字头晕 -60years(黑猪); 2006-2-8 (#2772289@0)

yeah, you are right. I do hope i can type chinese, then there will be easy for people to read. But I just cann't type chinese. Who can teach me? It is good chance for two people to hook up. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 (#2772316@0)

who cares -001isbetter(001-is-better); 2006-2-8 (#2772350@0)

www.justinput.com -blovenet(极品飞车); 2006-2-9 (#2772900@0)

不能打汉字不是你的错，个别单词拼错了也可以原谅。但不伦不类的语法还是少一些好。建议你向asker同学学习。 -wydmly(wydmly); 2006-2-8 (#2772361@0)

Except my english , what else you want to say? -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 {187} (#2772410@0)
I am not professional, or white collar people. I am a homeless people. Do not expect too much from me. By the way, I have two sexy, long, firm legs. Can they compensate my broken english?

i still like your english rather than asker(too formal, too academic and hard to read, every time when i start, i just give up). -mailtome(mailtome); 2006-2-8 (#2772436@0)

Thank you!!! I hope people focus on my points instead of my broken english. I only got 590 in TOEFL. . Only 2 point on writing. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 (#2772477@0)

ONLY? common, you are better than me. much better. I got 460, 0 for writing, forgot there was no writing test on the day. hehe. -lostindarkness(阳光灿烂); 2006-2-9 (#2774348@0)

Fine. We can become friends 'couse we have something in common. I do not care to show off my lousy english everywhere. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2774406@0)

I'm not interested in your sexy, long, legs nor the ideas in your poster, but I really hope that you can pay more attention to your English -wydmly(wydmly); 2006-2-8 {619} (#2772438@0)
1> I would like to clarify ------> I would like to make the following clarification
2> the chinese guy ---> Chinese guys
3> anything ---> should be deleted from the sentence
4> why do you chose ----> why did you choose
5> a country is dominated ------> a country (which is) dominated
6> Why the chinese ladies have not right------> Why chinese ladies have no right
7> yellow to yellow, white to white ------> ?????????????????
8> Seems i made bigger mistake, mention local guys is showing off, typy english is not
right either. -----------> totally garbage
9> why I cann't write ---------> why can't I write

Ha,ha. You are such a book-worm. But I do appreciate you serious attitude. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 {190} (#2772459@0)
Ok, I am just busy in organize my idea. Totally ignor my english grammer. Sorry, my poor english make you feel uncomfortable. But are you going to correct my english again? That is scary!!!!

不想与你为敌，但是既然你只能打英文，还是应该注意一点，很多人还在学习阶段，你说对吗？ -wydmly(wydmly); 2006-2-8 (#2772475@0)

Ok. Ok. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-8 (#2772495@0)

I can't agree with you more. OP need to improve her English and it's rather painful to follow her writing. -bluecactus(miaomiao); 2006-2-8 {229} (#2772546@0)
As to the lady who said "I think all men are pigs", whether she's rude or not depends on how she said it. I am quite playful when I talk with my guy friends, and even though I often tease them, none of them ever get offended.
你不觉得她就是她吗？ -lostindarkness(阳光灿烂); 2006-2-9 (#2774340@0)

"I remember we are canadian, aren't we", We are not canadian. we are chinese canadian. We ARE CHINESE. No matter where we go, people call us CHINESE, I think. -lostindarkness(阳光灿烂); 2006-2-9 (#2774315@0)

Whatever! Being your chinese-canadian. I am chinese pig. Ok? -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2774470@0)

agree -amber(琥珀); 2006-2-8 (#2772305@0)
加拿大是个多元文化的国家，相互尊重和宽容是这个社会的基石。各个种族有不同的习俗和价值观。你的local guys 朋友所说的并不能成为标准。把外族人所说的拿来教育同胞令人反感。 -york_region(york_region); 2006-2-9 (#2772707@0)

相反的，在吃饭买单问题上，大多数国人比你的local guys 朋友要做得好。We don't have to learn something to "improve our behavior". “我老外朋友怎么怎么说怎么怎么做”这样的说法很幼稚可笑。 -york_region(york_region); 2006-2-9 (#2772718@0)

If these two guys are just happen to be black or other colour local guys, then what will be you comments? There are some basic social code you have to follow. No matter what kind of colour of people you are. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 {486} (#2772743@0)
If you insist on doing stuff by your own way. Go ahead. If you don't open the door for the ladies, don't move the chairs for the ladies, don't pay the bills for ladies and ladies still like you, still want to hang out with you. Just stick to your own style. God bless you.
Almost all industry standards are made by western people. Why you need to learn , to follow them? Remember, this is Canada, we are canadian first. We are chinese, french, india etc. second.
Inferior-complex.

Your English is absolutely appalling. Can't you just double check the grammar before opening your mouth. -redundant(sunny); 2006-2-9 {284} (#2772747@0)
If you consider yourself a Canadian, and Canadian 1st, please respect your own language, or first official language.

By the way, I do not see why splitting the bill has breached the social codes of the "western people" ( Do you mean the Anglo-Saxon?). Or is this just your code?

Can you write and recognize all chinese words? And can you write and recognize all english words? Who give you right to judge me wither I am qualitied to be a canadian or not? -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 {259} (#2772799@0)
You go damn too far!!!! If you have positive attitude to criticize my points or my english writting. I accept it. But if u hold nagitive and unconstructive attitude towards me. You know what I am going to tell you, baby. " Stay out of my way and go to hell"

Sunny? That is your name. You should call youself " cloudy". Are you happy when I judge your name? -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2772800@0)
You are too serious lady. 在轮坛灌水就要准备好被拍成土豆泥。 -60years(黑猪); 2006-2-9 (#2773145@0)
suggar, if you spend more time on reading instead of talking like a sounthern black american, you will get your point more seriously taken. -redundant(sunny); 2006-2-9 (#2774011@0)

You know what? You are just a piece of jerk!!!!!! If i post your message on southern black american people's forum. You will probably be sent to jail. Ha, you can enjou your reading there!!!! Don't talk to me, racist. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2774255@0)

还是忍不住想要告诉你，月亮妹妹，你就别费神希望能改变男人了。有那功夫，英文都上好几个台阶了。你喜欢什么样的男人就去找那样的好了，没有对与错。无法忘却的中国情结，唉。。。 -thronbill(刺玫瑰); 2006-2-9 (#2773335@0)

I think you should remember this: "One of the guy INVITED a local lady to join us." -warmbedtonight(来吧...); 2006-2-9 (#2772908@0)

So? Did i write down what colour and nationality they are ? " Local" this word do couse some troubles for me. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2773576@0)

Dating white guys, this guy must be garbage. Dating black, or brown guys, then this lady must be loser. Dating yellow guy, then this land will be peaceful land. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 {184} (#2773660@0)
I have nothing to do with all kinds of colour people. I would like to visit T.O. Zoo to see monkeys. And I have nothing to do with splitting bills. It is somebody's problem, not mine.

在下以为SOCIAL CODE OF CANADA不一定适用于本地华人圈. 还有就是"市场决定论", 男多女少时男的打破头抢着付, 女多男少时女的"倒贴", 男女相当就AA啦... -superkid(活动活动?); 2006-2-9 (#2773605@0)

说明一下, 古今中外大多数情况是"男多女少", HAHA... -superkid(活动活动?); 2006-2-9 (#2773631@0)

Totally Support!!! just ignore some of the noise. In my opinion, as friends, it doesn't matter who pay the bill. But if it's a first date------- -explorer123(start); 2006-2-9 {624} (#2773800@0)
Totally Support!!! just ignore some of the noise. In my opinion, as friends, it doesn't matter who pay the bill. But if it's a first date, gentalman usually pay the bill. On the contrary, if lady wanna pay the bill on the first date, that means she doesn't like this person. She doesn't want admit this dinner as a date.

About English, I believe we should use it as much as possible, even it's still not as easy as mother language for most of us. And do your best to use it correctly. You don't even need to pay any attention to those people who just wanna mock others.

Just be sure about yourself! Great girl!

100% agree and support!! -mailtome(mailtome); 2006-2-9 (#2773823@0)
I do appreciate your guys supports.( especially my thanks to explorer123, mailtome, wcy0078 and wydmly who is my serious english couch). -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 {397} (#2774308@0)
We move to Canada, we have to respect the laws, the rules and the basic social codes of Canada. We cann't ask this country to change for us in order to benifit us. Same thing applying to other people move to China. Canadian go to China, they have to obey chinese laws, rules and customs. If they do not, chinese can yell at they, move your ass back to your place. Canadian can say same thing too.

I would like to make a clarification here: Mr.Wydmly is my great english COACH, not COUCH!! Sorry, my dear coach. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2774385@0)

However, I prefer to be your COUCH:))))) -wydmly(wydmly); 2006-2-9 (#2774387@0)

Ha, ha, ha. I cann't stop laughting. -hotmoon(Who cares!); 2006-2-9 (#2774417@0)

@San Jose

Finally, get some support, I feel much comfortable.

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